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Becoming Confident Amongst the Voice of Others

By Kandace Mink 

“The greatest fear in the world is of the opinions of others. And the moment you are unafraid of the crowd you are no longer a sheep, you become a lion. A great roar arises in your heart, the roar of freedom.” Osho, Courage: The Joy of Living Dangerously


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The opinion of others. It can hold us back. Make us someone that we are not. It can make us in our later years live in regret. Regret for caring too much. For letting outside thoughts, opinions, what-ifs; control our lives and direct them. 

Think about it, how many times in a day, a week, a year do you not do something because of others, someone? How many times have you held yourself back in fear of judgement? Who would you be today if you didn’t let “them” control you? 


Who are they that they deserve, or have a right to have their opinions of you to be on a pedestal? For which you put them on. Maybe you want to go to the gym for the first time but you don’t go because you don’t want to look “stupid” figuring things out. Or wear that one outfit that you love but you don’t because you fear what others will say of it. Maybe tell that person that is treating you wrong to stop, but you care too much about how you will look or what they think, so you deal with it. You settle. 

Whatever it may be, who are they that their opinion has a say to stop you, to make you feel less, to prevent you from what would make you happy?


There will always be thousands upon thousands of strangers around us, whether online or in person, someone who has something to say about you, whether negative or positive. And there will always be times for your mind to make up scenarios of what others could think, or what could go wrong, and what would they say when it does? This will never go away. It will always be. 

But you see, this doesn’t mean that the voice of others will forever have to control you. No, the truth is: you have the power. You have the capability to take these opinions and put them on a level that they deserve to be on. Not a first-class pedestal. Others’ perceptions, opinions are based on their life story. On all they have been through and are going through. On all they have been told and learned. Their insecurities and fears. You are but a character within their book. 

The beautiful part is, they may think what they think, they may say what they say, they may react how they react, but you have the pen of your OWN life in your hands. The character they have you as, that doesn’t have to be your story, your truth. 


You have the capability to say, “Okay, you have your opinion. But I have mine. You have your judgement, but I know my truth. This is my story, and your pen has no power in the writings of my life. I can go to the gym, and I may mess up, or look silly, but who cares? I am proud I am trying, and I am here for me, not them.”

“This outfit may look silly to others, but if I’m happy and feel good in it, does it matter? They aren’t the ones wearing it! I love music, it’s my passion and I want to share it with the world, so why can’t I? If someone has a say, then the real question is, what is going on deep within them that they must put me down for following my heart? Where are the set rules I must follow? And why must I follow them just to make others content?” You don’t follow the crowd, and the crowd goes hysterical.


The voice of others feels scary, overwhelming, like neverending pressure. But you have the potential within you to take back your control. Tell me, is not following who you are worth it? Is that the life you want to live? Do you want to give others so much power that as time flies, you realize you were never living for yourself but for them? 

You were living the life they wanted you to live. The life that the voice of others has made you feel like you have to live in order to feel approved of, enough, worthy, successful. Their crafted version of what life “should be”. But again, who are those voices that get this power? 

Someone you respect and that is in your inner circle is different. I am talking about the co-worker, the stranger in the gym, the strangers on the internet, the family member who seems to always have a negative say on your life. 

“Those who tell you that you cannot fly are the ones who chained themselves to the ground.” – Sai Pradeep


You are worthy. You are strong. There is brilliance within giving you the power to be the person you want to be; so go be that person. And when those voices come along, those voices pushing you down… tell them: “You have no power here.” 

You are who you are and who you are is enough. Take control of the pen that belongs to you, stop giving it to those who don’t deserve it and have no right to hold it, and create the life you want to live, not the life those opinions have for you. Take the power from their hands and put it back where it belongs; in your own. 

For more knowledge on mindset growth and becoming confident amongst the voice of others, you can read the following article: Books for The Mind: Relationships, Prosperity and Enlightenment.

About the author

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Kandace is a NASM certified personal trainer and online mindset coach for women. She has dedicated years to helping women achieve their mental and physical goals. 

Based in Houston, Texas, Kandace is also a partner admin of our Facebook Group Community, where she focuses on sharing mindset growth content for our members.

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